I feel like “self-care” has become somewhat of a trend over the past years, which is simultaneously awesome and a bit strange. It’s awesome because I think it is making the act of self-care something people feel more comfortable conversing about. In the past, talking about seeing a therapist or having depression was more taboo. Vulnerabilities were seen as weaknesses. With the rise of writers like Brene Brown speaking to the powers of being vulnerable, there has been an incredible shift in our society (speaking from a white girl’s perspective in the United States fyi) to being more comfortable with speaking about our struggles. At the same time, trends scare me a bit because they usually go away. I hope we continue to write about and share our stories about the battles we face in our personal lives.
I struggle with anxiety. It’s something I’ve only recently become comfortable to talk about publicly, rather than just with a therapist. I didn’t want people to see me as “broken” just because I struggled sometimes. The number one way to care for my anxiety has not been found in a prescription bottle, but has been found through radical acts of self-love. Because listicles are just easy, amiright, I have broken down the 3 easiest acts of self-love that I pursue daily.
1.) Taking a Quick Moment Every Day to Ask Yourself this Question
I have an alarm set on my phone everyday around 4:30 pm (the time when I am usually getting done with work for the day). That question is, What are you doing today to show yourself that you are serious about self-love? The answer to this questions changes on a daily basis. Some days it may be as simple as “I took a 15 minute walk today at work to clear my mind and get fresh air”. Other days it’s “I had a really tough, but needed, conversation with someone I love.” Somedays it may even be “Today is hard, but I’m going to go to bed tonight with the courage to try again tomorrow.” I love thinking about this question before I go home from work because it reminds me to check in with myself and really think about how I want to spend the rest of my night. Do I need to change my plans from what I was originally intending to do? We are animals of routine, and often forget that we have the power to change our plans. Some nights this question will remind me of this power and I will decide to forgo the gym and instead pick up my favorite takeout food and watch a movie at home because that’s what my soul really needs. You might think of a unique and different way to ask yourself this question, which is totally cool (please let me know what you end up choosing!!).
Taking a daily moment to check in with what you truly need can lead to some amazing changes in your life.
2.) 10 Minute Journal/Gratitude Session
I recently purchased The Self Journal. It is by far the best purchase I’ve made of 2018 thus far. I spend 5 minutes every morning and evening thinking about my day. Part of this process includes writing down three gratitudes at the start and end of each day. It takes very little time, but I’ve noticed a subtle yet profound impact on my daily attitude. Focussing on what you have makes life feel so much better. This is a small act but helps foster so much love in my life.
I also love that this journal reminds me of my accomplishments. After a busy day of balancing work, errands, and a social life, it can feel like the day was a blur. Taking a moment at the start of each days to set goals, and then checking off your accomplishments at the end of day helps put me at ease and makes me feel accomplished.
3.) Help Others Win
I try and help one person “win” each day. Whether that’s going on a walk with a new coworker to show them around the office, grabbing the check while out to brunch with a friend, or telling a stranger that their outfit is killer, making another person’s day a little better will make you feel better too. Some days I get in a rut and get stuck wishing my life was different. “Maybe I should die my hair blonde, maybe I need new designer jeans, maybe I should move to Hawaii, maybe I should find new cooler friends, etc etc”. When you start focussing on what you can do to make people’s lives around you better, your own life will effortlessly start to fill up with light. I promise you, going out of your way to do something nice for a friend or a stranger will make you feel a lot better than retail-therapy purchasing a 50 dollar tank top.
There are countless ways to show yourself self love!! These three are my favorite options because they are relatively easy to start doing. Even if you try one of these out maybe once or twice a week, thats a big step towards fostering more self-love in your life. If you have any awesome self-love/self-care tips please post them in the comments :D.